all materials are copyright serijules unless otherwise noted.
please do not copy or reprint without consent of the owner.
Terms and Definitions
Welcome newbies! This is a list of terms and definitions you will often come across in spanking, BDSM, chatrooms, stories, etc. I hope this list helps those of you that are curious, have little experience or exposure to spanking and BDSM, or just need a refresher on what some of the common words and abbreviations in this kink are about.
Roles
Top - a person that spanks another. Often paired with bottom or brat. Tops are usually 'just' into spanking as opposed to some of the heavier aspects of BDSM.
bottom - a person that likes to be spanked. bottoms are usually 'just' into spanking as opposed to some of the heavier aspects of BDSM.
brat - a person that often uses childish or lighthearted antics to get a spanking or attention, sometimes another term for bottom.
Dom/Dominant - another type of Top, although Dom's usually are used more to describe Tops that are into BDSM as well as spanking
Domme - Female version of Dom
sub/submissive - a bottom that usually is into BDSM as well as spanking
Daddy/Mommy - a Top that plays a parental role to a bottom, often involves ageplay
Master - another type of Top that usually involves more control and ownership than a Top/bottom or Dom/sub relationship. Can also be a term of respect.
Mistress - Female version of above. Can also be a term of respect.
slave - another type of submissive that is often 'owned' or in a relationship that usually involves a heightened level of control.
switch - a person who takes on both Top and bottom roles with different people, 'switching' between roles as the setting allows
spanko - person interested in spanking or who lives an active spanking lifestyle
SAM - smart assed masochist - usually a 'mix' of a sub and a brat, with the bratting antics being more along the lines of sassy and smart-mouthed comments rather than antics and jokes
Many people (including me) label their stories to warn readers of the content. Capital letters in story definitions indicates an Adult. lowercase indicates a child or teen. Example: (M/F, ageplay, belt) would indicate that the story is about a Male adult spanking a Female adult with a belt, and the story contains instances of ageplay. These are often called spoiler lables.
F/M - Female Adult spanking a Male Adult bottom
M/F - Male Adult Top spanking a Female Adult Bottom
M/f - Male Adult Top spanking a female child/teen
M/f/f - Male Adult Top spanking two female children/teens
F/F/m/f - Two Adult Females spanking a male and female child/teen
(that should give you the idea, they are interchangeable)
nc - nonconsensual spankings or activity
R/L - real life - story is not fiction but based on real life events
belt-paddle-cane in the title often indicates which types of implements are used in the story
oral - story contains instances of oral sex
anal - story contains instances of anal sex
rape - story contains instances of rape
incest - story contains instances of incest
sexual content/sex/sc/erotic - story contains sexual activity
Flash Fiction - stories under 750 words, often as short as 250 words
Cyber Collars
In chatrooms, you will often see submissives wearing online 'collars'. The collar indicates that the submissive belongs to another, and that relationship is to be respected by others in the channel. For the sake of example, we will use Jane and her Dominant Tarzan.
In most chatrooms, Dominants/Top nickname are usually in Upper case and submissives/bottom's in lower case. There are exceptions, many people do not like being restricted and labeled by this unwritten rule. I'm not a fan of online collars, but for the sake of understanding what you may see, here are some examples.
jane{T} - curly brackets indicate the sub has an online collared relationship with Dominant, Tarzan.
Tarzan{j} - some dom's also use the brackets in their own nicks to show they own a submissive. In this case, jane.
jane[T] - the straight brackets are usually used to show the relationship is real life rather than purely cyber.
jane[{T}] or jane{[T]}- use of both brackets indicates that jane and Tarzan have a real life relationship that is likely long distance, and most of their exploration is done online.
jane-{T} - the use of the - between the nickname and the collar usually indicates that the dominant is either just a mentor, or the submissive is still 'in training'
Other Terms and abbreviations:
D/S - Dominance and submission
D/D - Domestic Discipline relationship where a couple uses spanking and discipline in their relationship
BDSM - stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism
CBT - Cock and Ball Torture
SSC - safe, sane and consensual - used to describe BDSM play that runs by the standards that all activities need to be safe, sane and of consent of both parties
Sadist/Sadism - person who enjoys inflicting pain
Masochist/Masochism - person who enjoys receiving pain
Bondage - use of ropes, cuffs or other devises that inhibit movement
collar - a symbol of ownership and submission, worn by a submissive to show he/she is owned or belongs to a Dominant
24/7 - indicates the relationship is one where the roles are permanent and practiced part of both persons lives, usually a part of Master/slave relationships where the slave lives with and serves the Master in his home, regardless of whether they have a romantic relationship
implements - anything used to spank another
cane - long rattan or bamboo rod used on the buttocks. Takes an incredible skill and a lot of practice to use a cane safely, and is a very severe implement
birch - a bundle of branches tied together and used on the bottom.
switch - long, thin whippy tree or bush branch used in spanking - very stingy.
loopy johnny - three loops of rounded rubber strands on a handle - very stingy and severe implement.
tawse - leather strap split into 2 or 3 strands - traditional british discipline implement
lexan - bulletproof glass material used in some paddles - clear and unbreakable, very ouchy
razor strop - thick leather strap that was used to sharpen razors at one time
flogger - sensual implement often made of soft leathers and suedes - has many strands (called falls) on a handle, often used on the back and shoulders as well as bottom and can be very sensual - more painful floggers are made of rubber, heavy hide leather, or other materials
OTK - over the knee - style of spanking
safeword - a word used to stop action or to show the Dom that something is wrong. Common safewords are Red for STOP, Yellow for slow down or check in with me, and Green for all is fine, continue.
safeaction - same as a safeword, only a physical action such as dropping a ball or putting a hand around the ankle. Used in situations where a safeword is not practical (when gagged, in a noisy club, etc)
self spanking - bottom uses implements on his or herself, either on own whim or at the direction of another
cyberspanking - spanking given online between two people....either purely "acted out" by words only, or where a Top directs a bottom to self spank
role-play - when partners choose roles to enact during a spanking (doctor spanking nurse, headmaster and schoolgirl, etc)
ageplay - when the bottom takes on a different age, usually younger (adult woman playing a naughty 12 year old, etc)
edgeplay - a type of play/scene that is very heavy or dangerous, may involve squicks and has a higher chance of emotional or physical harm
squick - something that is distasteful or a hard limit for someone. Common squicks are beastality (sex with animals) or watersports (urine play). Other squicks may be as simple as a certain implement or activity such as blindfolds.
spanking - if I have to define that one, you are in the wrong place
